The Surprising Power of Simply Asking Coworkers How They’re Doing

We all have the power to make a difference in the lives of others and even on the bottom line.

We humans have an innate need to belong — to one another, to our friends and families and to our culture and country.

The same is true when we’re at work. When people feel like they belong at work, they are more productive, motivated, engaged and 3.5 times more likely to contribute to their fullest potential, according to our research at the Center for Talent Innovation.

To better understand the emotional impact of belonging — and its inverse, feeling excluded — we launched the EY Belonging Barometer study, which surveyed 1,000 employed American adults.

Pullquote share icon. Share

When people feel like they belong at work, they are more productive, motivated and engaged.

Our study substantiated existing evidence that exclusion is a growing issue. We found that more than 40 percent of those we surveyed are feeling physically and emotionally isolated in the workplace. This group spanned generations, genders and ethnicities.

In fact, the majority of individuals look to their homes first (62 percent), before their workplaces (34 percent) when it comes to where they feel the greatest sense of belonging.

While the workplace exceeds neighborhood communities (19 percent) and places of worship (17 percent), many individuals spend most of their time at work, and creating workplace communities where people feel like they belong is imperative.

It takes a village

This tells us that many people want more connection with those they work with. So how can companies connect more effectively with employees and help them feel like they belong within their workplace community?

The results of our survey pointed to one simple solution: Establish more opportunities for colleagues to check in with one another.

We found that 39 percent of respondents feel the greatest sense of belonging when their colleagues check in with them, both personally and professionally.

This was true across genders and age groups, with checking in being the most popular tactic for establishing a sense of belonging across all generations.

By reaching out and acknowledging their employees on a personal level, companies and leaders can significantly enhance the employee experience by making their people feel valued and connected.

What didn’t seem to matter that much for belonging? Face time with senior leadership that wasn’t personal. Being invited to big or external events or presentations by senior leaders, as well as being copied on their emails, was simply less meaningful to employees when it came to feeling a sense of belonging.

The art of the check-in

Across EY, we’ve spent a lot of time considering the importance of check-ins with our people — as a way to build relationships regularly, as well as to provide support after significant news or events.

Of course, people have different preferences about how they connect with each other at work. While some people may want to sit and talk, some may prefer a digital chat and others may not be open to engaging at all.

Learning how to engage with employees in a way that they feel comfortable is key to creating a sense of community. Here are five tips to consider as you find the right way to check in with colleagues:

Pullquote share icon. Share

Engaging with employees in a way that they feel comfortable is key to creating a sense of community.

 Seize the small opportunities to connect

Try to establish connections with your colleagues that communicate that you value, understand and care about them. Be present, curious and seize small daily opportunities to connect authentically.

For example, a simple, How are you doing? How can I support you? could go a long way in nearly every setting.

 Check bias at the door

Check-ins are a time to listen to another person’s perspectives, not debate or persuade. If someone shares something that you don’t understand or agree with, you might consider acknowledging their point of view or asking them to tell you more.

You may be pleasantly surprised by their response. For instance, Tell me more about it, or I never thought about it from that perspective, but I do realize we can experience the same situation in different ways, so I appreciate you explaining that for me.

 Assume positive intent

Start any conversation with your colleagues believing that those talking or listening mean well, especially when it comes to difficult issues.

Sometimes you might fumble through these topics, but assuming positive intent will help you pause, ask clarifying questions and connect in a more meaningful way.

Sometimes, these pauses make a huge difference. It is fine to say, I am pausing because I just don’t know what to say, or I am pausing because I want to learn more from you.

 It’s OK to be vulnerable

Seek feedback from your colleagues, especially those who are junior to you. Demonstrate your trust in them through the way you communicate and act on their feedback.

For example, expressing vulnerability by acknowledging their views and talking openly about challenges you’re facing humanizes the relationship you have with your peers and direct reports.

 Be consistent and accountable

Be transparent and model consistent, inclusive behavior, even under pressure or during difficult conversations. Expect, reinforce and reward the accountability of others.

Pullquote share icon. Share

The journey toward true inclusion requires commitment from leadership.

For example, offer a conversation to team members when a difficult event occurs, and model inclusive behavior in your own interactions to set an example for other team members.

These five tips may help guide the way, but the journey toward true inclusion is never ending. It is a continuous path that requires commitment from leadership, particularly as more people look to their work communities for validation, safety, fulfillment and happiness.

In turn, this yields tremendous benefits at scale — from engaged employees to client retention and better financial results. By starting with simple things like a check-in, we all have the power to make a difference in the lives of others and even on the bottom line.

This article first appeared on Harvard Business Review and was republished with permission.

Karyn Twaronite is the EY Global Diversity & Inclusiveness Officer, responsible for maximizing the diversity of EY professionals across the globe by striving to continually enhance EY’s inclusive culture. Karyn is a member of EY’s Global Practice Group, Global Talent Executive and U.S. Executive Committee.

Click the RSS icon to subscribe to future articles by this author. RSS Feed